Do You Actually Want To Be Happy? (You Probably Don't)
Welcome to Unchained Caleb, where I talk about living the lifestyle of the Alpha Male 2.0 and the Unchained CEO as covered in my primary book, The Unchained Man, which has sold over 150,000 copies. This is about living a life of maximum freedom in all respects, financially, internationally, logistically, and sexually, rather than one that is societally acceptable (because society hates freedom). No AI was used in writing this article - it’s 100% me.
Before I start talking about concepts like location-independence, having your own business, escaping the Collapsing West, or non-monogamy, I often preface it by saying something like:
“First, you needed to decide if you really want to be long-term happy, because if you don’t, you won’t agree with any of this stuff and won’t do it.”
Long-term happiness is your primary goal or it’s not.
I describe (for example) a non-monogamous relationship where your girlfriend or wife can more or less do whatever she wants (other than give you drama) and you immediately say, “Whoa, whoa, whoa! I don’t want her doing X and Y. What about respect? She needs to RESPECT me and if she did X or Y that’s not being respectful.”
This means that long-term happiness is not your priority. Respect is. So you’ll engage (or more likely, try to engage) in relationships where the woman you’re with will have to follow a bunch of rules you lay down for her so that she shows you respect.
Then she’ll bitch and moan and complain and argue with you, and also fail to live up to those rules regularly. Then you’ll have drama, arguments, and conflict, which means you won’t be happy.
You might have respect. Maybe. But you won’t have consistent happiness.
If you answer that you don’t care, that’s fine. This means that most of my lifestyle models and techniques aren’t going to resonate with you no matter how interesting they may be to you.
It’s not just a dating thing. I tell you to permanently move out of the Collapsing USA, Cuckoo Canada, or Suicidal Europe, and your first response is But That’s Cowardly We Need To Stand And Fight™ or But What About My Brother Larry™ or But There’s Cartels In Mexico And They Might Kill Me™.
Once again, you’re clearly demonstrating that long-term happiness isn’t your priority.
Your priority is quaking in fear about any country that isn’t the USA, angrily arguing with woke leftists on the internet, or worrying about your dumbass brother whom you have zero control over.
Those things will never make you happy.
If you don’t really care about being long-term happy, that’s fine. You’re normal because most people don’t care about that either. That’s why most people in the Collapsing Western world are so angry, scared, and stressed out all the time.
But if your goal is to actually be long-term happy, you’re going to have to do some things that:
Feel initially uncomfortable to you because they’re not what society has taught you.
and
Look very weird to your friends and family, at least at first.
The other problem is the role models you’re unconsciously following. Here’s a random, short list of famous men that a lot of men pay attention to:
Donald Trump
Andrew Tate
Elon Musk
Jordan Peterson
Cenk Uygur
Piers Morgan
Etc.
Here’s a question: Do any of these guys seem happy to you?
The answer, if we’re being honest and objective, is no.
I’m not saying they’re unhappy 100% of the time, but it’s very clear these are not long-term, consistently happy men.
Even Charlie Kirk, before his death, didn’t strike me as a super happy guy.
So when you spend most of your online time following men who are not happy, guess what you’re probably going to do?
Emulate their behaviors, even if subconsciously.
That means less happiness for you.
So you have to make a decision: Am I going to be long-term happy and look a little weird, or am I going to instead pursue societally-approved lifestyle models like stress, respect, fear, and screaming about politics?
Because you can’t have both.