Having Multiple Girlfriends/Wives Instead Of Just Dating Partners
Last year, on my Alpha Male 2.0 YouTube channel, I talked about how I was changing my relationship with my wife, Pink Firefly.
Under the OLTR model with my wife for the past 10 years or so, having sex with other women is allowed as long as I don’t date these women and keep them at the FB level only.
As I discussed in detail last year, I decided for several reasons that I didn’t want to do that anymore because in my “old” age (early 50s) I don’t want to manage a gigantic harem of FBs anymore.
Been there, done that for 20 years, don’t have an interest anymore.
Plus, I wanted something more stable and long-term from the women I was seeing outside of my wife.
Therefore, I invented and started experimenting with the new PDM model where I have a small number (two or three max) of women in my life who are actual relationships instead of just FBs. They can be equivalent to wives, girlfriends, or high-end MLTRs; I haven’t quite nailed that part down yet.
My plan was to have one or two of these PDMs in Dubai and one in Paraguay, since I’m in Dubai seven months a year and Paraguay the other five.
Since then, I’ve modified this plan slightly. Pink Firefly, who moves back to Dubai with me on December 7th of this year (though she will live in a different apartment), informed me that she would feel less jealous of the other PDM(s) lived in Dubai rather than Paraguay.
She has no interest in spending any time in Paraguay. So her concern is that every year I’ll be “away” in Paraguay for five months “with this other woman.” She will have no idea what’s going on, and that makes her more jealous or concerned.
She would prefer it if I had no PDMs in Paraguay and instead I have one or two in Dubai.
This is the opposite of what I originally planned, since I figured jealousy would be reduced if these women were all located in different countries. But PF is the type of woman who is less jealous the more she knows about what I’m doing on the side. (Some women are the opposite; they are less jealous if they don’t know details and don’t want to know.)
Fortunately, I’m outcome independent and hyper-flexible, so I’m happy to change the details of my plan as long as I get what I want: 2-3 serious women who are long-term in my life in stable, steady relationships with minimal drama or problems.
I’m still evaluating how this is going to work. And as always, since these are serious, long-term relationships I’m talking about, I can’t rush into these things, and any woman who qualifies for these kinds of relationships with me (and there are a few I’m looking at) needs to be patient before I agree to any long-term commitments.
If I agree to what Pink Firefly is requesting, then that would mean that I have two PDMs in Dubai (I don’t want three in one city; that would be way too much work) that I would split my time between (giving PF priority because she’s my wife and was first) and then have some sort of “main FB” or “super FB” in Paraguay plus one backup FB there.
I have candidates for all of these… uh… “positions” but none are official yet. As soon as I 100% nail down any of these, I will report it here.
It’s definitely been a fun adventure as well as a learning experience!