Your Dating/Relationship Goals Should Be Based On Your Age

When I talk about me having 1-3 PDMs instead of having one OLTR wife and a horde of FBs on the side, a lot of guys get really confused.

“Caleb why are you DELETING women out of your life?!?! Only having three women instead of a huge harem?!?!? That’s crazy! I would never do that!”

And guess what?

They’re right. They shouldn’t do that.

Because they’re 27 years old.

I’m 53. My goals are, and should be, very different from those of some guy who is 26 or 35.

A man who is 73 years old should also have very different woman goals from me.

This is because all of these men are in different places in life. Different places in life equal different goals.

It’s not just about age either. Not only am I 53 years old, but for the past almost 20 years I’ve been consistently non-monogamous, dated (casually or seriously) a vast number of women, have lived out every crazy sexual fantasy I’ve ever had, and even lived experiences in my woman life that were far beyond my wildest dreams.

So while monogamy still won’t work for me at any age (because I’m a man), I’ve “been there and done that” when it comes to all of the crazy, exciting shit and I don’t need to do it anymore.

(To be fair, sometimes the exciting sexual stuff still happens but it’s not because I’m actively seeking it. When you’ve lived the Alpha Male 2.0 lifestyle for as long as I have, things drop into your lap sometimes. So I take it and enjoy it when it’s freely offered, but I’m not actively pursuing it anymore. I don’t need to because I’ve already done it many times and I don’t need to keep repeating it forever like some kind of addict.)

This is one of the many reasons why I don’t like talking publicly about what I’m doing with my PDMs and PDM candidates. Less than about 3-4% of my audience are at my age and experience level with this stuff, so it doesn’t apply to the vast majority of people who consume my content.

And it will simply confuse men who are younger than me or less sexually experienced than me, which does a disservice to everyone.

The point is that your woman goals need to be congruent with where you are in life, meaning your age and amount of woman experience you currently have. You shouldn’t try to copy anyone else’s woman goals unless that person is around the same age and experience level as you (and is behaving rationally).

There are a lot of young, inexperienced guys who barely (if ever) get laid who want a woman life like Andrew Tate, with 7 or 8 smoking hot wives and a bunch of random chicks on top of that.

There are also a bunch of young men well under age 30 whose goal is to get married ASAP.

Both of these are examples of wildly incongruent goals based on where these men are in life, and there are many other examples I could name besides just those two.

It’s like trying to do exactly what Alex Hormozi suggests for your business in some YouTube video you just watched when you just started your business last month. Despite what anyone thinks, Hormozi’s world is experienced six and seven-figure business owners and beyond, not business newbies.

This is why last year, when I first started talking about my PDMs, I repeatedly stated over and over again that guys in my audience shouldn’t even attempt what I’m doing. Not only could they not do it, but they don’t even want it.

Twenty or so years ago when I was 35, recently divorced, and first entering into my Alpha Male 2.0 life, I knew that at some point down the road I would have liked to settle down with a special woman again.

But I was rational enough to realize that settling down now at age 35, or any time in the near future, would have been a horrible mistake for me. No, based on my age and experience level with women, getting 1-2 FBs and 1-2 MLTRs was a much more appropriate goal, at least for that time in my life. And that’s exactly what I proceeded to do.

I told myself that I could settle down again in 10-20 years, which would be an appropriate age and time. Which, by the way, is exactly what I did; I married Pink Firefly in an OLTR Marriage when I was 48.

We’re all in different places in life. As always with any big goals or plans you set for yourself, you need to focus on YOU, where YOU are right now, not me, not your brother, not your dad, and not some random celebrity or influencer on the internet you think is cool. None of these guys are where YOU are in life.

Keep your woman objectives focused around your age and your current experience level.